I went to Trader Joe's the other day, and I realized that I lack social skills PLUS a social life. Wait, I realized this when I was volunteering the other day too. Well, I think I've always known that I am a bit anti-social, but it never bothered me until now.
When I was paying for my purchases at Trader Joe's, the cashier asked me what I was planning on doing over the weekend. I said I was studying for a Geology test. (I didn't want to admit that I really never do anything exciting over the weekend or the fact that I don't really have that many friends.) The cashier then proceeded to tell me that the weekend had just started, and that I should go out. I answered by saying I wanted to get an A, and I am willing to spend all weekend studying. She gave me a confused look. I hope she wasn't judging me.
Honestly, what do people usually even do during the weekend? I don't really go to parties because I'm not that cool, I can hardly drink, and I don't really get invited. I sometime watch movies at the theater, but that certainly does not take up the whole weekend.
How am I suppose to meet more people anyway? Sometimes I have these painfully shy moments where I don't know what to say to people. If I really like someone, I'm afraid to say anything because then they might not like me. The friends that I do have are so awesome that I don't generally care to make new ones.
Do I go to a bar to try to strike up a conversation? Do I try speed dating to work on my communication skills? Do I walk up to strangers, and start telling them my life story?
I want to be more social, but I don't know how to be more social. I don't know how to talk more without getting on people's nerve or risk sounding silly or dumb.
Why is it so hard? Why am I so awkward?
I think I'm going to try to make more friends. I'm going to be more bold. I'm going to try to get out there.
Oh dear, I hope people don't reject me because they find me creepy... (hahaha.)
Don't spend a lot of time on why they misread social situations well. I would tell kids, “Not being able to read social situations happens to a lot of kids. That's why they're always in trouble. As you become an adult you learn to read this kind of thing better. And some people lag behind. It just doesn't happen to them as quickly as other people, and that’s OK.”
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